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February 02, 2025

Hi Leo! I love you son! I just want to say how proud I am of you! I know I’m often a bit tougher on you than Mom is, but I want you to know how proud I am of you! Usually after I get onto to you for something, I always think back about who you are and everything you do, and I always feel like I’m a bit too strict sometimes. I really am working on it every day!

One thing I always try to do very intentionally is to make sure you also know I hear you and am listenening to what you say. Although I might sometimes still choose what I believe is the be the better way, I want to know and feel that you’re listened to and I do consider what you have to say also.

There will be times though that I have to go with my choice. I remember when I was growing up how I felt sometimes my parents didn’t understand things like I did. I felt like I had the right answer and the right understanding. This is common view of all younger people towards their parents sometimes. It wasn’t until I got older that I realized some of those moments I was wrong, and I was grateful they were strict on some things. I know you may not understand it now or in the moments, but I hope you do recognize our limitless love for you, our desire to always take care of you and ensure your safety and happiness.

I learned over the years that age brings wisdom, which is very different from knowledge. Knowledge is more less knowing things that might be in a book. Knowledge is incredibly important, but knowing how, when, and where to use the knowledge is critical. This (in my opinion) is wisdom. I think the earlier in like you can understand the concept of wisdom the faster you’ll be able to gain it and be prepared for rollercoaster that life can be.

From a young age I found so much wisdom in the song Bowl of Oranges by Bright Eyes. I used to sing it to you when you were little all the time. The last lines of the song in particular were very poignant to me in how they left me with a broader perspective in life. It speaks to being able to step back and look at all lifes up and downs with clear and objective eyes.

And we’ll keep working on the problem we know we’ll never solve
Of love’s uneven remainders, our lives are fractions of a whole

But if the world could remain within a frame like a painting on a wall
Then I think we’d see the beauty, then we’d stand staring in awe

Maybe you’ll remember this song when you get older. You used to always ask me to sing it to you before bed. I’ve been singing it to you lately since you’ve been feeling under the weather lately, espescially today. You got a lot of coughing today and I’m doing everything I can to try to bring it down, because just the sound of hearing you cough, and the stress it puts on your body–I feel it myself each time you cough. This is most likely nothing more than a cold or something else really minimal, but I just can’t help but feel it when you cough and want to hold you every time. Feel better soon Leo! I know you will but I can’t wait till you back to 100% of your wild energy self! Although, you surprisingly still have tons of energy right now!

I can’t stress enough how proud of you I am son! You are more than I could have ever asked for in a child and son. There’s so much greatness in you and you’re such a good person. I see it all the time in your actions and your words. We love you Leo, forever and ever our beautiful son. We’re so excited to see you become the great man we know you will be!

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The Best Days

I was just trying to work on updating this a bit for you and saw my last post mentioning how you don’t speak that much. So much has changed since that time though! You speak a lot more now than you did and I absolutely love to hear you!

It’s a bit tricky though when everything gets busy, but I try to make an effort to ensure I’m looking at you and acknowledging that I hear you and am listening. I want you to always grow up feeling like you had parents that listened with understanding.

One of my absolute favorite moments in any day is when you call to me to show me or tell me something and say “hey Daddy” in that particular way that you do. It’s hard to describe, but it’s just your voice and the way you reach for my attention in those moments that I absolutely adore.

It’s late here my amazing Son, so I’ll get to bed soon. I just wanted you to know what we love you and adore you so incredibly much!

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Feel better soon!

Hey Leo! You’ve been sick recently and we’ve been to the doctors quite a few times in attempts to try and figure it out. When you eat, you cringe in pain and put your left hand over your ear, so something hurts a lot when you eat. We’ve temporarily switched to a homemade baby food since it’s easier to swallow. We’re hoping you feel better soon.

You’re often quiet and don’t speak much, but the teachers at your daycare class say you talk a lot! I wish you would talk more to us! We love hearing you son, and want to hear everything you think!

Other than the temporary sickness mentioned above, you’re doing great and super healthy! I’m still working on getting your room together but I keep getting pulled into so many other things. I feel like that’s our life nowadays, always trying to play catchup!

We love you son so much! We’re so proud of you and know you will become an amazing man in the far future! Always remember who you are! Love you forever and ever Leo!

-Mom and Dad

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The Key to Immortality

The key to immortality is to stick around. I know it sounds funny when said that way, but there’s a quote that says something along the lines of “we only truly die when our name is spoken for the last time”. I understand this to mean our memory is what keeps us alive.

I’m starting this blog for you Leo, in hopes that no matter how much time I may have, at least some of my words and memories will remain. Don’t worry though, my goal is to stick around as long as humanly possible (and maybe inhumanely if possible?) so I can see you grow up into the incredible man I know you will be.

Life is a lonely road, I think that is often the case especially for men. I’ve seen comments online from men on this idea and they all seemed to say the same things I’ve noticed and felt in my life as well–that you’re often alone, that you have such a burden of responsibility to always not only take care of yourself, but others as well, while often feeling like you don’t have anyone to look out for you. In my much younger years, I think I felt this because I didn’t truly recognize the people around me whom cared for me. In my older years, many if not most of those people are now gone and it truly is more and more a world where I’m all I have to take care of me.

In light of all that said above, I think the most important thing I can try to teach you is to pay attention and be aware. Not only be aware of your surroundings at all times for safety sake, but make extra effort to be present in the moment so that you don’t miss all the people that will love and care for you so dearly.

Looking back, I feel I was often detached from the present moment while growing up, usually stuck in my own head and thoughts. I would caution against this and encourage you to pay attention to yourself, your mind and how you think. It’s about properly balancing how to think your thoughts while still being present in the world and alive.

I’m proud of you and know that you’ll grow into an amazing person no matter what path you choose in life! Stand and feel your worth my son; know who you are. Know that you carry within you all of us, and all of your experiences and knowledge that you will gain. Within you lies an entire universe that you create with every breath you take. Although people can be similar in various ways, there is not and never will be another person like you in the universe, or even multiverse if it exists, for there can never again exist a person such as yourself made up of all your circumstances, your choices, your thoughts and joys and all of the special things that make you you.

I love you with all my heart Leo. Helping bring you into this world is the most important thing I’ll ever do because I know that the world is undoubtedly a better place with you here.

I’ll continue to post on here for record, and keep this site as long as I can. I love you son! See you tomorrow!